Help a woman with young children

Help a woman with young children

Help a woman with young children:

In years gone past almost all mothers had parents, siblings and friends to help them when children got to be more than they could handle. Stress gets to us all, the stress involved in raising our children can be immense. It is important that every mother get relief from the pressure of rearing children, it is also important that every mother get adult conversation from time to time.

Today we are a very mobile society, even though most of us still live within 50 miles of where we were born, many of us do not. We no longer always have our parents and siblings near us to help with child rearing. Maybe we have moved away, maybe our siblings have moved away. Our parents might be living in a retirement community in Florida or other warm state. Given how much later many women are choosing to have children, our parents may no longer be capable of helping us.

What happens when a woman is left with the entire responsibility for rearing children. Her husband may be working two jobs to support his family. There may be no father or male figure in the environment at all.

We have Big Brothers and Big Sisters to help older children by providing them with a role model of the gender that is not available otherwise. We need to expand the Big Sisters to help young mothers with a child and an infant or toddler. There are many women who don't have anyone to help.

What can you do:

Take the older children to the park, zoo or other fun spot	This will give her time to enjoy her infant without the older children around.
Cook a meal for the family	After a long day of chasing children many women are too tired to really cook a good meal. Give her some relief, give her some time to relax.
Offer to go to the Zoo, the park or other fun spot with her and her children	When you are dealing with children the more eyes the better. One person trying to keep an eye on two or more children is going to end up very tired and stressed. Going with her to the zoo, the movies, the park, or even shopping will take a lot of the stress off her.
Offer to baby-sit one or more (or all) of her children	Give her time away from her children. A night out with her husband/Significant Other can be a blessing to both parents.
Just visit with her	Adult conversation and interaction is important to all of us. If there is a father in the picture he is often too tired after a day at work to provide stimulating conversation. Even if he can, all women need interaction with other women.
Clean her house	After a long day of chasing children many women are too tired to properly clean their house. Give her some relief, give her some time to relax.

There are probably other things you can do, this list is by no means exhaustive, but the first thing to do is to identify the women in your community who are alone with their children. We have seen what can happen when a woman gets no relief from her children and it is not pretty.

Remember:

Children are not things, they are not owned. Children are our future. We all are responsible to see that every child is raised to be contributing members of our society. We cannot believe that parents are solely responsible for raising the children they gave life too. We can not assume that paying taxes is enough.

We all need to be proactive in making sure all children become productive members of our society.

Amen

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